Tiny Story | Paul, Mindfulness & Mental Health
Updated: Nov 11, 2020
Paul Shanahan is a man who is both inspirational and open to discourse about his experiences of I’ll health and mental health. He is not subject to the pressures and fears of stigma, choosing instead to be open and honest about his past where he once drowned under the weight of Mental Ill Health. He talks of his past with humour as if telling a tale of another. This is something I find quite common with those who have recovered, and I think it is a mark of recovery when you can look back on your story and no longer feel afraid, or ashamed of it but rather see it as a different, ‘other life.’
We first met a few years back, back when I was working at Trust House Lancashire (a charity for survivors of childhood sexual abuse) part-time, whilst starting up a community magazine with the time I had left. Paul had just set out to offer mindfulness as a recovery tool so I featured his story and we became friends. Fast forward a few years and I am sat in Quilligans Cafe, Blackpool drinking tea talking about his journey (metaphorically).
After an extremely difficult childhood of poor mental health, added to the melting pot came abuse and identity issues. Like so many others, Paul received inadequate, infrequent and often inappropriate care. Issues from his childhood surfaced, his mental state, unpredictable and unstable, had compounding effects on all parts of his life. From school and education to relationships and the very sense of himself, everything was stained by mental ill health.
What i admire in Paul's story is this inner burning light, like a gas pilot light, it just wouldn’t go out. No matter how hard things got, or how hard he fell, he still, over time, got back up on his feet, dusted himself down and tried really hard again at life. I see this in him still today, this dog determination to move forward, to improve.
For Paul, the biggest change, (you know, the one that finally tips the scales. The one that feels like, this time you just might have a fighting chance to escape the gravitational pull of planet mental ill health), began quite by accident. Paul discovered Mindfulness and so, step by step, his recovery began.
Today Paul lives and works in Blackpool. He is the founder of GoGetYou a registered funded Charity that delivers programs and workshops to improve people’s mental, physical and emotional health. It all began with Mindfulness but Paul has expanded this to combine mediation with movements such as ThiChi. I do so admire people who find something from somewhere to never give up.
Thinking Out Loud
Mental Health is not an isolated condition like a boil on the skin or a rash on your feet. It may well be in “our heads” but it seeps into our hearts, our souls, our friends, our education, our careers, jobs, dreams and ambitions, It eats everything like a locust. Pills don’t fix mental health. Pills can and do help people short term to get off the edge. They may be the difference between exploding today or simmering through to tomorrow but they won’t cure all. It is the other things, the ‘not on prescription’ things that will lead to recovery. Friends, connecting with others, purpose, storytelling, story sharing, creativity and little easy to learn tools such as mindfulness that help us take back control of our own lives. That to me is one of the unwritten secrets to recovery, at its core, recovery is about taking back control of our own destiny and as such taking control of our own decisions and choices.